Be confident. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin without being cocky or arrogant. Learn to communicate in deeper ways with your partner. If you already have deep relationships with other friends, use the same principals to obtain that same kind of intimacy with your loved one.
If you don't have deep relationships with other people in your life, learn how to do so. Take a communication class and read books on the subject, occasionally practicing in the mirror to feel more comfortable with communication. I know this may sound a little silly to you, but trust me, I have had many of my male and female friends use this technique to build their confidence.
Put little notes to yourself on your fridge, on your mirrors, in your car, on your computer, etc., that has positive affirmations about yourself. Even if you don't believe the statements yet, you will come to do so over time if you say them every time you pass by them. Use statements like: "I am a great communicator;" "I can succeed at learning to build a deeper relationship;" or "I am a valuable person on the playing field of love."
Learn to kiss the man or woman in your life so it will knock his / her socks off, but don't move to the next level. Learn to enjoy kissing for hours, just as you did before you became physically intimate. It will deepen your relationship.
Learn what your partner's secret dreams and desires are by asking and listening carefully. Then try to help him / her achieve some of those dreams and desires. Make a habit of complimenting your partner at least once a day. If you have the chance to see your partner or talk to them, you can use that time to compliment them and do it often. Be consistent and reliable in what you say and do. This will go a long way toward building trust with your partner, something he / she may never have experienced with other men or women.
Learn to enjoy your partner for who he / she is. You don't want your partner to change you, so you shouldn't expect that your partner would be okay with you trying to change him / her. Accept your partner for whom and what he / she is. Be a gracious, opening doors for your partner (if you are a woman you can do this too) and pulling out chairs. Take an interest in who your partner is and where he / she came from, including making friends with his / her family.
If you follow these few basic steps, you will be the most valuable player on your partner team and ahead of the game! Treat your partner with the same respect and honor that you would like to be treated with. Think of your partner as you would yourself and you will make it to the end zone consistently!
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